Strategies for a more fulfilling relationship
Relationship counselling can be a very effective way to help you identify where the relationship has gone wrong and work out whether or not you are able to heal the relationship. Rescuing a relationship in crisis is a great challenge for couples, as it needs commitment from both partners to work through difficulties and take responsibility for their own contribution.
Counselling provides you with the communication skills to build a better relationship. Most couples come when their relationship is in trouble and they want to repair the relationship. This might also include recovery from an affair, or dealing with sexual difficulties.
Other couples come to rekindle the flame in a tired relationship.
Some people seek help to individually work through doubts about the relationship in order to come to a decision whether to stay or to leave. Others have recognized that their behaviour causes problems in the relationship and seek help to change these behaviours.
The main therapeutic model I use is Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT).
Note: While the vast majority of couples I see are heterosexual I am happy to see same sex couples.
Recovery from an affair
Understanding gender differences
Dealing with violence and / or abuse
Rebuilding after divorce / separation
Blended family problems
Spiritual issues affecting the relationship
Containing the impact of past sexual abuse and other traumas
Benefits of relationship counselling for couples:
Communicate more effectively
Set ground rules for conflict resolution
Learn what makes relationships work (or fail)
Understand each other better
Express your feelings to your partner
Feel safe in the relationship
Get more of your needs met
Benefits of counselling for individuals on relationship issues:
Make sense of why your partner does what s/he does
Improve communication with your partner
Decide whether to stay or to leave
Process the grief of separation and finding ways to move on
Effective parenting after separation