Relationship Counselling

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Strategies for a more fulfilling relationship

Relationship counselling can be a very effective way to help you identify where the relationship has gone wrong and work out whether or not you are able to heal the relationship. Rescuing a relationship in crisis is a great challenge for couples, as it needs commitment from both partners to work through difficulties and take responsibility for their own contribution. 

Counselling provides you with the communication skills to build a better relationship. Most couples come when their relationship is in trouble and they want to repair the relationship. This might also include recovery from an affair, or dealing with sexual difficulties.

Other couples come to rekindle the flame in a tired relationship.

Some people seek help to individually work through doubts about the relationship in order to come to a decision whether to stay or to leave. Others have recognized that their behaviour causes problems in the relationship and seek help to change these behaviours.

The main therapeutic model I use is Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT). 

Note: While the vast majority of couples I see are heterosexual I am happy to see same sex couples.

Specializing in:

Overcoming conflict

Improving communication

Recovery from an affair

Understanding gender differences

Sexual difficulties

Dealing with violence and / or abuse

Rebuilding after divorce / separation

Blended family problems

Spiritual issues affecting the relationship

Containing the impact of past sexual abuse and other traumas

Benefits of relationship counselling for couples:

Communicate more effectively

Set ground rules for conflict resolution

Learn what makes relationships work (or fail)

Understand each other better

Express your feelings to your partner

Feel safe in the relationship

Get more of your needs met


Benefits of counselling for individuals on relationship issues: 

Make sense of why your partner does what s/he does

Improve communication with your partner

Decide whether to stay or to leave

Process the grief of separation and finding ways to move on

Effective parenting after separation

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